Tekubi Shibari -- Wrist Binding -- Basic Kinbaku Pattern I

Kinbaku (緊縛) and Shibari (縛り) are used interchangeably in Japanese, literally means bondage or binding with rope. The previous post Kinbaku -- Release through Restraint doesn't detail the emotional aspect of the practice. For people looking for something more erotic, beautiful and close between two souls, Kinbaku might be a good choice.

Thanks to "50 Shades of Grey", bondage is now a more open and acceptable term.

Sex is not about making baby. Yes, to be frank, human do enjoy sex, both male and female, but only under a very stringent condition, especially female. Many had never experienced orgasm throughout their whole sexual life, many are denying it while some are frustrating about unsatisfying sex. The natural body instinct is normally not enough. We need to learn, communicate with our partner and intellectually discuss about it. Before Kinbaku, there are 4 things which is very important to ensure a satisfying love-making:

1. Knowledge.
2. Communication.
3. Tool.
4. Communication again.

Do not make any assumption that you know everything about man or women! Some are not even sure about their own needs. Besides, women are good at pretending and faking orgasm only to feed the partner's silly ego. You need to put effort to learn how and be more sensitive to your own need as well as your partner's need. Learn from the right channel, for example, knowledge about the biological structure, where is the key spots, how to play safe and whether your partner likes it or not. After all the communication only a mutual trust relationship can be established. Then only you can talk about using tools to enhance the fun of sex.

Kinbaku, unlike the Western bondage, is not a practice, but a real discipline, which involves kokoro (心), i.e. “the heart, spirit and mind”, things can not be acquired through the mere knowledge of techniques and knots. It is the pleasure you found through the artistic resemblance, and follow by joys come from the absolute trust, honesty and respect.

Person who get tied or Shibari have different emotional experiences. Communication is very important to ensure the session can be conduct smoothly especially for the first timer. Rigger (kinbakushi 緊縛師 or nawashi 縄師) must be able to handle the psyco-physical balance of the partner who get tied. Being forced and immobilized for many people can turn into a true liberation. It is known that in some forms of autism one of the remedies to make the patient feel safe is to make him/her feel immobilized or total given up. The sensation of the bondage with ropes tying up the body may be similar to the effects of vigorous embrace and hence promote the excretion of endorphin which followed by sense of relaxation, and then release from the tension and constraint. The bonded person may also have the feeling of total surrender or offering, which create a sense of absolute freedom. But, all these emotional senses must be based on trust and communication beforehand. A good nawashi passes the rope on the skin in a sensual way, uses it to pat, touch, shake, hold and deter, coerce and manipulate the body of the person bound. The process of tying up by a professional nawashi is indescribable pleasure.

As beginner, start with some simple Kinbaku pattern such as wrist binding (手首縛り) and Cross-legged binding (胡座縛り). But again, communication must come first and both party must be well consent. Patient is also important to build courage and confidence of both party. Soft cotton or nylon rope is preferred for beginner. Mask and other erotic wears can be used by the rigger to enhance the excitement.

Here is the basic step-by-step wrist binding (手首縛り) demonstration by Nanapi:

Step 1: get a rope about 1-2 meter long. Hold it at the middle and make a loop.

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Done!